I only realized it after reading a few books about relationship problems.

I recently left my narcissistic husband..... The more I read on the matter, the more I understand and see how bad it was!! It is extremely difficult to maintain a relationship with a narcissist - especially once you realise!!! 

I am so sorry you had to go through that.  You have to realize that the whole divorce process might also be difficult because the narcissist will feel wounded and shamed and usually want to inflict as much pain on you as possible.  After all you arrangements are settled you have to go with No Contact and I would recommend to show him the Gray Rock technique.

You should also not feel guilty for not knowing the signs before you got married.  Narcs are mastermind manipulators and will hide all their nasty behavior.

Just know that in future your ex-husband might try another relationship with other women and that sooner or later he will be the same narc as the one you knew.

Most narcs also try to go back to their ex-wife, just do not fall for the sweet talk.  Narcs can never change and usually they do not want to.

For now just focus on your healing and well-being.

By goldstars - July 29, 2018 - edited: July 29, 2018

Hi i have just posted  about narcissistic mothers then i saw your post on narcissistic mothers. I had a a narcissistic husband although i have been divorced for many years now. Being married to him was a living nightmare. It put me off marriage i have been on my own ever since.