why dear molly?

why dear molly?

By Clare Sultmann

dear molly sums up all things good about women: Strength, support, loyalty, courage and friendship are what the name dear molly means for me.

You see my best friend is called Melissa, shortened often to Molly. We’ve been best friends since we were 12 years old. 

There’s nothing out of the ordinary about our friendship, but at the age of 23 it was tested by the extraordinary.  You see, at that age, I was run over by a garbage truck on a pedestrian crossing. From the moment the truck hit me up until I was rushed into emergency I was fully conscious. 

The accident changed me physically and emotionally in ways I never thought possible, with repercussions that were unimaginable.

I learnt very quickly about the true meaning of friendship -about what it means to have people around you, who love and support you, who care for you, and who cheer for you.

Clare & Molly, 3 months after Clare’s accident.
Clare & Molly, 4 months after Clare’s accident

No better example of a friend can be this:

Melissa and I, some many months after my accident, are out together. We are crossing a road in Sydney. As usual she’s talking nonstop, walking at a pace that’s almost at a standstill to ensure I can keep up.

Weighted down by the casts and bandages that cover my legs, my broken body gripping onto the two crutches that are supporting me, I’m not focusing on what she says. The pain is too great and the fear of falling over so very real.

The shuffle, which I just manage, gets me to the edge of a road and suddenly I freeze. I know it’s going to take me minutes to cross the smallest of distances and I’m almost waiting with bated breath for a car or worse, a truck, to come at me.

Melissa senses my fear and without hesitation, steps out and says in her loud school teacher voice: ‘You’ve already been hit. I’ll take the next hit for you’.

She crosses in front of me onto the busy road, holding up her hand to stop any cars that are coming towards us. I smile at her, we laugh. Hell, if we didn’t laugh we would have cried and we make it across the road. 

Fast forward 17 years and here we are - both married, with kids, full lives and still best friends. When I came to name this site, there was no better fit for me. 

That loyalty, that type of friendship, that support, that understanding, that level of social connection is something which I hope you all find here at dear molly

Molly & Clare, with friend Jude, 2017
Molly & Clare, with friend Jude, 2017

Clare Sultmann

Clare Sultmann is a wife, mother of 3 and the founder of Dear Molly.
As a surviver of a catastrophic accident, former barrister at law, published author, and nationally accredited mediator Clare has returned to work in a different capacity. Relocating to Noosa shortly after the birth of her first child, Clare found it difficult to make meaningful and real connections with other like minded women away from her own network of friends. With this in mind, Clare’s idea was born. dear molly aims to provide connections for like minded women in a real, meaningful and positive manner. It a platform to share, communicate and inspire other women about their ‘real’ life. 

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Comments (7):

My husband and I got together at 18, my near fatal MVA happened at 33 and he is still by my side at 42! It's amazing what friends can struggle through together and stay connected.

TerriAmeyCJG - May 6, 2018

so inspiring!

Funny - January 15, 2018

I Love you Molly

Shishir - November 25, 2017

This is really Wonderful Clare and the story of you and Mel ( aka Molly) made me teary. Such a great idea and inspiration x

leah - November 12, 2017

I love Molly too for all she has been to you.

rmmrosiem - November 8, 2017

Love it Clare - well done x

louisacurtain - November 3, 2017

This is fabulous, what a great read.

williamandvanessa - November 3, 2017