We’ve all been there. Or most of us have if we have had the onerous task of compiling a guest list for our wedding. Arguments with our partner over whom we should and shouldn’t invite are commonplace. I remember my now husband saying to me when we were in dispute over our guest list. ‘He’s a really good mate, we have to invite him’. ‘If he’s such a good mate, then why is this the first time in 3 years that I’ve ever heard his name mentioned’… Great Aunty Shirley, twice removed just has to be on the family table because we won’t be able to face her at Christmas if she isn’t invited….and so the saga continues. The joys of organising a wedding. Many times over I’ve heard friends lament: ‘wouldn’t it be easier and cheaper if we just went to Vegas?’
Most of us have when writing the guest list for our weddings come to a crossroad. ‘The should we or shouldn’t we’ guest. The one which we really don’t want to include but are obliged to do so. And with weddings these days it’s not just about wanting only those we really love and care about to celebrate with us, it’s about the cost. Do we really want to spend potentially hundreds of dollars on someone we don’t really know or have hardly spoken to for years?
And what about the ‘plus one’ guest? I had a friend ring me and say ‘Clare, I’m pretty serious about this girl and would it be ok if she came as my date to your wedding’. Contrary to people screaming ‘don’t be stupid’ I relented and invited his plus one. Shortly after, they broke up. There goes a couple hundred bucks that I will never see again and a whole heap of pictures with a girl whose name I can’t recall.
So all hail Prince Harry and Meagan Markle who have no doubt, gone against protocol and decided against inviting political leaders to their wedding. Mind you, inviting Donald Trump to your wedding would turn anyone off. And I doubt Teresa May would be the life of the party. I can’t see her kicking up her heels at the reception dancing to ‘Nutbush City’ but then again, I could be wrong…So Harry and Meagan’s decision is probably a good one. No obligation, no pressure, no obligatory invites. The people who will be in attendance will be those closest to the couple. Their family, their loved ones, their confidants. Oh, and about 1 billion of us watching on television…..
This blog was written in response to the trending news of Prince Harry and Meagan Markle not inviting any political leaders to their wedding, leaving Prince Harry's friend Barack Obama, his successor Donald Trump, and British Prime Minister Theresa May off the guest list.
Clare Sultmann is a wife, mother of 3 and the founder of Dear Molly.
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