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Sanity versus Vanity?

Sanity versus Vanity?

By Clare Sultmann

Sanity vs. Vanity…what would you pick? It’s a pretty pointless question as the answer for most of us clearly lies in uh duh SANITY but for some women out there (and dare I say men) vanity often wins out.

Case study in point. A lady overseas recently wrote to @dearmolly to tell us a story about her friend and her ‘nose surgery’. I won’t say rhinoplasty as that is a bow too far, so let's leave it as is. Apparently, the lady had had a slight skin cancer removed from the end of her nose. You could barely tell, the writer of the email lamented. You could not notice it, even if the owner of it (and she often did) point it out and ask if you could see it. It was nothing, a blip on the radar of her many perfections and few imperfections but it was something this woman could not stop talking about, focusing on and ultimately acting upon. The writer of the email went on to tell me that her friend, finding it bothered her so much, decided to have some plastic surgery to ‘amend’ the scar. As it turned out to the woman’s horror, the surgery highlighted the scar even more prominently. She felt more self-conscious than ever before. So much so that she started to avoid friends, rarely left the house and turned down most social engagements. The scar and its aftermath were determining and controlling her life and she was miserable. Her vanity had overtaken her sanity and she was suffering.

After I received the email I began to think of why so many of us focus on the negatives. A few kilos overweight, thighs a little chunkier than before, bosoms a little lower, hair growing in all the wrong places. We should, although it’s often impossible to do, wake up each morning, thank God that we are healthy and our body moves and get on with it. Who cares about the cellulite, the size 8 dresses, and the muffin top? Focus on the bigger picture and if you really want to work on some inches, let's focus on the top three - i.e. our brain, our thoughts and our belief system. Celebrate that, embrace that and work on that. Trust me, you’ll be a lot happier because of it.

Clare Sultmann

Clare Sultmann is a wife, mother of 3 and the founder of Dear Molly.
As a survivor of a catastrophic accident, former barrister at law, published author, and nationally accredited mediator Clare has returned to work in a different capacity. Relocating to Noosa shortly after the birth of her first child, Clare found it difficult to make meaningful and real connections with other like-minded women away from her own network of friends. With this in mind, Clare’s idea was born. Dear Molly aims to provide connections for like-minded women in a real, meaningful and positive manner. It a platform to share, communicate and inspire other women about their ‘real’ life.

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