“Give it a try,” said the heart

“Give it a try,” said the heart

By Clare Sultmann

“It’s impossible,” said pride. “It’s risky,” said experience. “It’s pointless,” said reason. “Give it a try,” said the heart.

(author unknown)


These words have haunted me for months. Any woman thinking of starting a business with a small family and not much money to outlay would agree. Should I or shouldn’t I? Is it too hard? Will it work? Will I have enough time? Will the kids suffer? Will our family suffer? Can I afford it? What if I fail?


I’ve thought long and hard about all of the above. Those questions and many more have run through my head a thousand times. As Oprah would suggest I do, I’ve questioned my intention.  My reason for beginning something, putting an idea ‘out there’ and seeing how I go.


I’ve debriefed with my husband, my friends, my family about the pros and cons of my idea too many times, and I’ve had honest and valuable feedback from a myriad of people. Yet no-one can guarantee that your idea, your pitch, your business will be a success. You just have to do the best you can, put one foot in front of the other and, as my husband says, ‘play the cards in front of you’.


My idea of connecting women through common interests was born from my own isolation from close family and friends when I relocated shortly after the birth of my first child.


I attended mothers’ groups, but just because we had children of similar ages, it didn’t mean we connected. I found it demoralising and draining to come home after these play groups (all of which were a mammoth effort to get to with a newborn and an 16-month-old).


I was lonely. I missed my close friends who were a two-hour car ride away and I missed being connected. I missed ‘the chat’.


After 12 months of planning, my idea has finally come to life. dear molly has arrived, and, like anything it’s been trial and error. It’s based on a real person - my best friend Molly. You can read more about our story here.


It’s ability to connect women based on common interests (through a custom-built algorithm) is something I am proud of. I am proud too, of the articles we provide for women - many of them authored by professional women, who have taken time out to provide valuable content, which hopefully women will find helpful and interesting.


It’s a platform for women to have a voice, to speak their mind through our forum discussions or through their own contributions to the website, which we encourage.


It’s a website which has (apart from our IT guru Tim), been orchestrated by women. I’m proud of the fact that this website has been discussed, designed and juggled between school and kindy hours, sports carnivals, sick kids, pupil free days, moving days, swimming lessons and so forth.


It hasn’t been easy, in fact, the hardest part is yet to come, but I am proud of what we have accomplished. I’m proud of dear molly and what I hope it can achieve, and I’m pleased that the little voice which spoke the loudest to me came from my heart.

Clare Sultmann

Clare Sultmann is a wife, mother of 3 and the founder of Dear Molly.
As a survivor of a catastrophic accident, former barrister at law, published author, and nationally accredited mediator Clare has returned to work in a different capacity. Relocating to Noosa shortly after the birth of her first child, Clare found it difficult to make meaningful and real connections with other like-minded women away from her own network of friends. With this in mind, Clare’s idea was born. Dear Molly aims to provide connections for like-minded women in a real, meaningful and positive manner. It a platform to share, communicate and inspire other women about their ‘real’ life. 

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Comments (2):

Thanks Jomckee5. It's an ongoing process but I am so pleased that you and your mum are enjoying the site!! Happy New Year and all the best for 2018.

claremary - December 31, 2017

It's a great idea Clare and would have saved me a few years ago when I had an awful experience in a Mother's group in Sydney and felt so alone. You are very brave. My own Mother is enjoying your website too!!

jomckee05 - December 29, 2017