‘Caveat emptor’ or buyer beware is a statement I have been thinking a lot about lately, ever since Megs and Harry decided to skip town, leave the fam and head off to the sunny - or should I say snowy shores of Canada.
You see, like the rest of the world, I am somewhat captivated by their story. It’s like a train wreck… As much as you don’t want to look, you can’t help but peek.
I’m not even a Royalist. I think, despite how cute Wills and Kate’s kids are, we should, in fact, be a republic. Heaven forbid! However, I do like reading about the royals, ‘getting the goss’ so they say.
I have heard a lot about the late great Princess Diana lately and how proud she would be of her son for standing up for the woman he loves, of standing up against the institution that is ‘The Crown’. I’m sure she would be proud of those things. But here’s the thing. Would she be proud that her two sons are now opposed, barely speaking, that her youngest son has had to choose between the family he has always known and loved and the woman he now calls his wife? I think not.
Harry himself has said there was ‘no other option’ than to step back and that’s really sad. It’s sad that he had to even make the choice, even sadder that his wife and son were on a different continent when he uttered those words.
Like almost everyone else passing judgement, I have no idea what it was like for Meghan and Harry; no idea of the pressures that were put upon them. Clearly, they were significant and insurmountable. But two words keep coming back to me over and over. Caveat Emptor or buyer beware. Unlike Princess Diana who was engaged at 19 years old to Prince Charles, Meghan knew full well who and what she was marrying into. In a 1992 biography Diana: Her True Story in Her Own Words, Diana reflected on their (her and Prince Charles) rushed courtship to journalist Andrew Morton. “He’d found the virgin, the sacrificial lamb, and in a way, he was obsessed with me,” she said.
Meghan’s courtship and relationship with Harry was a polar opposite to Diana’s naivety and the relationship she has with Prince Charles. Meghan was a divorcee, a Hollywood starlet, a woman in her own right. At nearly 36 when they met, Markle was a mature, assertive and successful woman. Older than Harry by 3 years you could say she was the more mature and ‘worldly’ of the two.
When she said yes to Harry’s proposal, she must have known full well what she was getting into. Caveat Emptor Meghan. Buyer beware. As a member of the most famous family in the world and as Prince Harry’s wife, she would have known what would have been expected of her, what scrutiny she would be under. No longer a private citizen she would become a public figure and with that privilege would come expectation, protocol and would require no doubt a stiff upper lip. In my opinion, it’s hard to feel sorry for a woman whom you would assume should have known better. She was buying into the most famous family in the world and doing it with eyes wide open.